Proverbs 15:1 says, “A soft answer turneth away wrath; but grievous words stir up anger.” I should be the last person to write about a soft answer. I’ve always had a big mouth, not just in words, but in volume. Growing up, it was more common for me to hear “Heather, turn the volume down” than “Heather, eat your vegetables.” I guess that’s why I made a decent cheerleader, but a terrible bookkeeper. In the bible, God challenges us to use a softer voice, because He used one Himself. Especially in conversations with really messed up people. He was good like that. When you master the ability to speak the truth in love, there’s no need to shout, spray or slay. To illustrate the appeal of a soft voice, let’s compare soft things with its counterparts: a Sealy Posturepedic bed with a fuzzy blanket or a hard cot with a cold sheet? Lavender Softsoap or a bar of Dial? Soft-upholstered LazyBoy recliner or a hard bench? Soft things are appealing to us just like a soft voice is appealing to others. If you (like me) have the tendency to shout, yell, scream, roar, clamor or bark, we need to add a PAUSE button to our brains. Before we RESPOND in our usual loud way, press pause in our heads. In that pause, adjust pitch and volume. THEN press play and speak forth!
One of the battles that can ensue on the battlefield of our minds are dark thoughts that enter and look for a place to stay. I don’t want to expound on what these thoughts are for us, lest I give them power. But they’re dark; and they have no right to our minds. I found a powerful counterattack in the bible for this: Romans 8:6, “but the mind controlled by the Spirit is life and peace.” If you have Jesus in your heart, you have his LIFE and PEACE in your mind. His life and peace outweigh, outlive, outlast, overrule AND overcome the dark thoughts trying to stay there. Don’t be a wimp with dark thoughts. Don’t just roll over and settle for them. They don’t own you, and can’t take you. Jesus and you are bigger and more powerful than your thoughts. If you suffer from any degree of this, take your thoughts captive and SHRINK them to what they really are: cowardly attempts to attack turf that Jesus has already won. If you are struggling with thoughts having too much control over your mind, email me, I’d love to pray for you, as I pray for myself. I hope this encourages someone today.
How many of you have heard: “I won’t go to hell…I’m a good person?” I’ve heard this, too. But when I reflect on my life, and read the bible, I quickly learn: even good people are bad. In the days surrounding the crucifixion of Jesus, the bible teaches us about the good people who were there:
• disciples – good enough to be chosen as part of Jesus’ ministry, and His closest friends
• religious leaders – good in their authority, Bible-knowledge, and religious deeds
• Pilate – good enough to be the Roman governor and to know Jesus was innocent
Yet they did bad things:
• disciples denied Jesus (Peter); betrayed him (Judas); and abandoned him
• religious leaders didn’t give Jesus “innocent until proven guilty,” used false witnesses, altered the justice they were there to protect
• Pilate sold out as an upright governor, and denied the truth, though admitting it
This proves that good people can be bad, and raises a question: then what do we do to become good? Personally, I can’t answer that, because as soon as I’m good, I manage to go and do bad (Romans 7:15)! But biblically, I can answer this! The Bible says, “ALL have sinned; ALL have fallen short” (Romans 3:23) It also says, “If we say we have no sin (i.e., are good), we are only fooling ourselves and refusing to accept the truth.” (1 John 1:8) And the bible teaches us a simple way:
• Admit you’ve screwed up (Romans 3:23)
• Acknowledge Jesus is Lord to save you (Romans 6:23)
• Accept that Jesus’ died for your badness (Romans 5:8)
• Ask for Jesus to be your goodness (Romans 10:8-10)
If you pray through these 4 “A’s,” the Bible says there’s a party in heaven, because you’re no longer knocked down by your bad-ness; you stand tall in Jesus’ goodness! And if you think there’s a party in heaven right now over you, wait till you spend eternity there! I hope there’s a dance floor!
Tonight I stepped up to the intimidating apparatus in my kitchen called “the oven” to bake a box of Christmas-clearance, marked-down, gluten-free scones. They looked like scones, required the same ingredients as scones, baked like scones. But did not taste like scones! Suffice it to say, I was disappointed and my kids didn’t even give them a try. Ya know I used to be like a gluten-free scone. I looked like a Christian (wore a cross necklace). I had the same ingredients as a Christian (went to church, owned a couple bibles, attended a Christian college). But get close enough and you’d discover I was gluten-free: everything was there…but something was missing. Maybe this is you. Maybe this is someone close to you. So how did I resolve this, for myself? Well, next time, I will buy REAL scone mix. How did I resolve this in my life? One morning, when I was 23, I had an epiphany: I would no longer LOOK Christian; I would BE Christian. I didn’t want to be a head-fake anymore. I had come to the concluding conviction that I’d rather be a real screw-up than a perfect-fake. With no regrets, I’ve been working at being a real scone ever since! If you want the real scone to stand up (YOU!) ask the Master Chef to get involved in your life–and you will!
During my school years, I was deathly afraid of being unliked so I would do things (I thought) would make me popular. Consequently, I polarized myself because people didn’t want to be friends with a show-off, bragger, big mouth or cheater. My insecurity got the best of me…
Looking back, my insecurity was rooted in a FEAR of being unliked. Maybe that isn’t yours, but consider these: fear of failure, fear of people knowing the real you, fear of not getting credit, fear of people rejecting you, fear of conflict, fear of disappointing others, fear of looking weak. What do these insecurities have in common? Fear. But we don’t have to be afraid, and we don’t have to be insecure. Don’t ever buy the lie that fear and insecurity are “just part of life.” The bible promises and proves that we are made in the image of God. God is confident and secure, so we are born to be, too. When Queen Elizabeth walks into a room, she isn’t an awkward and fragile wall-flower. She is a poised and secure royal! But she’s just an earthly queen. We have THEE ETERNAL KING down here; building a castle for us up there. If we have Jesus, we have a KING in our heart and a CROWN on our head, we better walk like it! And if we got ourselves into insecurity…with God…we can get ourselves out of it. If you have fear, see if it’s hooked to one of these insecurities and fight it! Prayer + Books have helped me a lot! The following are my 3 favorite books for getting rid of insecurity:
1) For everyone: Search for Signficance by Robert McGee
2) For women: So Long, Insecurity by Beth Moore
3) For men: A Tale of Three Kings by Gene Edwards
I hope this enCOURAGEs someone today!
Hey Everybody! I’m excited to reveal my new blog! Huge thank you to my web designer (and friend of ten years) Stacie Castleberry! Since I started blogging ten years ago, I subscribe to the notion that design-change is good; content should be consistent! So I’ll still do my 1-minute daily posts, but with this new look. Let’s celebrate with a giveaway-contest! There are two ways to enter:
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On Wednesday’s PM-post, I’ll draw from all the entries and the winner will recieve a $100 Visa gift card. Eazy Peazy! Whoop! Whoop!
One of the consequences of my 2000 suicide attempt/psych ward was the crash of our marriage that ensued. “I’ll sleep somewhere else,” “I don’t love you,” “I want out,”…harsh words for a bride to tell her husband of only 17 months. We were blind sighted by the enemy’s attack on our marriage. Like a hurricane, there were signs and conditions that my mental state was on the fritz; but like a tsunami, we never saw a marriage-crash coming. No doubt, what the enemy wanted as a counterattack was for us to divorce. But God stepped in, and fought with us and for us. Sure, we can thank the enemy for shattering our marriage into a million pieces. But today we get to thank God for putting it back together. This Monday will mark 18 years of marriage. Though I struggle with indebtedness to Raul, he’s quick to remind me that with true love, there are no debts (1 Corinthians 13). Together, as a couple God rescued, we rally for couples waiting to be. We cry tears of empathy when we see couples struggling and laugh tears of joy when we see God step in. True to His Word, God doesn’t waste our experiences (Romans 8:28). Sometimes, Raul and I get to pray for, listen to or comfort others struggling in their marriages–and the outcome is twofold: one, we get to serve God by helping others, and two, we get to see the hand of God when He steps in. I hope this encourages someone today.
“But I’ll tell you whom to fear. Fear God, who has the power to kill you and then throw you into hell. Yes, he’s the one to fear.”
“The LORD is my light and my salvation; Whom shall I fear? The LORD is the strength of my life; Of whom shall I be afraid?”
“Fearing people is a dangerous trap, but trusting the LORD means safety.”
On many famous accounts, God displayed his love in epic ways: parting a sea in half, sending a rainbow to a family, raising Jesus from a tomb. But what I love so much about God is He not only displays his love in epic ways, but through small moments: a deaf man, a paralyzed man, a girl in adultery, a virgin with child. Have you ever noticed the insignificance of these people? In the bible and in human history, they weren’t given names, national holidays or photo-cred. God didn’t pick celebrities to display his love and perform these miracles. He didn’t pick the ones with the most “likes” and “follows.” Out of 22 miracles Jesus performed, 20 came from insignificant backgrounds. In this world, we often have to be “somebody.” But in Christ, we already are. You don’t need to beef up, clean up or puff up. You just ARE, and God loves you right from there. I was never popular as a kid. I don’t know what it’s like to be “most likely to succeed,” class president, or prom queen. But I do know what it’s like to be recklessly, unconditionally, emphatically loved by God. You may feel small in your corner of the world, but to God? You’re his universe. You’re his first choice. You’re his favorite one of you. If you were the only small, insignificant one on Earth, you would have been worth dying for on the cross. You may feel small in your eyes, but you are the biggest focus of His. I hope this encourages someone today.