disclaimer: I am not a certified counselor or professional in mental health; just a pastor’s wife living with bipolarity.
One thing I’ve been guilty of doing, tempted TO do and observed others doing is using mental illness as an excuse to hurt others. I don’t like that I have done this. And when I bounced my behavior off God’s word, I don’t think God wants this for me, either. In the bible, Paul wrote, “I was given a thorn in my flesh, a messenger from Satan to torment me and keep me from becoming proud.” (2 Cor. 12:7-8) From this text, I learn that Paul was tormented. Like Paul, some of us are mentally tormented. However, what I glean from the subtext, is that PAUL says HE has a thorn. He owns it. He embraces it. He gives it to God. What Paul does not say is that his “thorn” is mine, your’s or ours. It’s HIS thorn. And as the text continues, God used it to display His grace and power (2 Cor. 12:9). Sometimes, I’ve been tempted to say, “But I can’t help it. It’s just the way my mind works.” But that doesn’t line up with God’s word. The bible says that we take our thoughts captive. That means, my thoughts are not my master if Jesus is my Savior. The bible also says the greatest commandment is to, “love your neighbors and your enemies.” Love does not mean using my “thorn” to hurt others with it. I hope you know my heart: that I know the struggle is real. I live with it every day. But I also hope this raw conviction about it encourages someone.
A couple years ago, I posted this post-it. There have been opportunities and relationships I am responsible for losing because I was stupid. But this #postit was dedicated to the ones I was smart enought to learn from. We have a choice to learn from our losses. Although the loss is part of our past, the lesson can be part of our future. I was thinking about this one stupid thing I did that rendered a big loss many years ago. Can’t go back and undo it, can’t deny it, so I had to accept it. But as a Christian, it didn’t stop there. I got to ask God to forgive me for it. He eradicated the guilt-voice in my head (sidebar: guilt beats up, conviction wakes up). Then I was able to pray, “Lord, what can I learn from this?” In God’s goodness, He led me to bible verses, and others who had done stupid things, to help me develop a rich lesson of learning. Having a spirit of learning from the things you lose can actually give you a win! Bud, choose to ride the wave of God’s grace and learn from your losses. BONUS, you’ll have wisdom to help OTHERS with theirs. Life is about choices. But if one of them is choosing to learn from the things I’ve lost, sign me up. In God’s economy, there will be no losers…only winners.
[Disclaimer: I am not an expert nor a professional. Just a client with a big mouth and Jesus. If you are having thoughts of taking your life or harming yourself, call 911 or Suicide Lifeline, 1-800-273-8255]
Whether we are medically, circumstantially (or sometimes both) battling depression, we are on a battlefield in our minds. These battles can require us to fight dark thoughts—sometimes hourly! I want to share my personal 1-2-3-4 process on what I do when the thoughts start waging war.
Here are 4 things I do:
1. I take my mental-verses with me, in my car, in my purse, everywhere I go, and read or recite them at the inception of bad, dark or negative thoughts. (see my mental-verses, here: http://wondherful.net/ten-verses-for-tough-times/)
2. If my dark thoughts move from occasionally dark to chronically dark, I call my counselor, ASAP. (see http://wondherful.net/not-too-cool-for-counseling/
3. I read books that are uplifting. Three of my fav’s are the Psalms in my Bible; “Battlefield of the Mind” and “Power Thoughts” by Joyce Meyer.
4. I get myself outdoors and my ears tuned to uplifting music. This gets me out of the atmosphere that was allowing my bad thoughts and into God’s great nature. And gets good songs stuck on repeat in my head. If I’m singing, I’m not depressively thinking!
Friend, you might battle depressing thoughts, but it doesn’t mean you have to lose the battle. I hope this encourages someone today.
In the Wizard of Oz, Dorothy clicks her heels and recites, “there’s no place like home.” For her, home was Kansas, where Dorothy wanted to go back to normalcy, familiarity, comfort-ability. This makes a nice movie. But it wouldn’t make my reality show. Even if I could click my heels, I wouldn’t go back. Where I was, was where I needed to be, but God led me out. He knows best, His route is perfect. In the bible, Paul said, “My friends, I don’t feel that I have already arrived. But I forget what is behind, and I struggle for what is ahead, I run toward the goal, so that I can win the prize of being called to heaven.” A few operative phrases are, “forget–behind,” “ahead,” and “run toward.” This is proof for me to not look back and wish I were there. God’s book is my life-book. I draw life from it like I’ve drawn oxygen from oxygen tubes when I’ve had pneumonia. I want to do what HIS book for MY life says. It is infallible, irrefutable, undeniable and unstoppable. If I would go my own way and click my heels to go back, I would MISS the chance to lace up my Addidas and run forward. No offense, Dorothy! Love the movie, but I’ll live like Paul. 🙂
Once upon a time, there lived a person who was a woman, a prostitute and a minority. During her time, clear social-rules kept society from acknowledging her as a person. A woman? A prostitute? A minority? 3 strikes. Do you feel like you have 3 strikes? In John 4, the Bible teaches that Jesus cared so deeply for our 3-strike person, he spoke directly to her. He looked at her. He stood by her. He didn’t tolerate her sin, He came to die for it. This may have been the first time a Person saw her as a person. Jesus is reaching out to you—you, who others won’t give the time of day to. You, who others have given up on. You, who others don’t wanna be seen around. You see, you hold out your 3-strike life to Jesus, and he doesn’t see the strikes everyone else sees, He sees you. This 3-strike person met Jesus, He filled her heart and He changed her life. And He’s still in that business. I hope you know that even if the world sees you as “3 strikes, you’re out” Jesus sees you as “3 strikes, still in.”