Forgiving is a hard thing to do–that most of us (if not all) will have to do. A few years ago, I had to forgive. It didn’t quickly – it wasn’t an moment, it was a timeline. Now that I have, I wanted to share 5 things I did to get there:
1) Christian Counseling. Sometimes the pain is so big, deep and wide we need someone to help us manage it; and to simply be paid to unbiasedly listen.
2) Prayer. Pray daily for the people who hurt you, because a heart can’t coexist with the currents of prayer and hate running through it.
3) Read. “Choosing Forgiveness” “Exquisite Agony” “Total Forgiveness” and “Forgive and Forget” were very helpful books for my healing.
4) Set a goal. My goal (per the suggestion of my counselor) was to get my HEART to the point where it could say to my hurter, “I wish you well.” Forgiveness does not always mean restoring the relationship but it does mean restoring your heart!
5) Cry and Ask. I cried and asked God, “Why?” God became my closest friend during that time. I had a lot of tears and confusion. I learned there was nobody who could understand, handle and help me more than God. God lives in my heart – where betrayal and forgiveness takes place. You can’t get closer to me than in my heart. Many-a-day, I met Jesus there.
I hope this encourages someone today. If you are working through this, be happy to pray for you. Shoot me an email, firstname.lastname@example.org