>Leading & Fighting

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OK, leaders – we lead, right? But how do we fight? I don’t mean take him or her out back & see who will throw the first punch (which, btw, happened to me in 7th grade). But how do we, as leaders, handle conflict?

I think if its a unilateral conflict (you vs. someone alongside you), follow what the bible says and do what you have to do (in private) til you can walk away agreeing or agreeing to disagree. And leave it there!! Don’t ever take it with you, to be exposed to the rest of the team.
What if you have conflict w/ YOUR leader? Well, again, we can look to the bible, where we are clearly told to submit to our authority. The ultimate vision hasn’t been given to us, its been given to the one leading us (otherwise we’d be in the bigger office). So push the envelope, but don’t push your way out of a job.
What if, as a leader, you have it out with one of your followers? Hum…I am not going to speak to this because I am not very good at it. Sorry, but this blog is no good if I dish out bogus advice.
Well these are my quick thoughts on leading and fighting, what are yours?

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>You, Me, Us, We – July 4th!

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More photos of the FRC Sawgrass Brigade Parade!!

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>You, Me, Us, We – July 4th!

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My church has a campus at Sawgrass Mills Mall, in the Regal theater. They participated in a parade today. They had a great spirit, and it was bloody hot outside!

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>$50 & the word WITH

>OK, first things first, only 2 people have entered my contest (see post below). So that’s it…I am up’ing the annie. Instead of a $10 lame-o gift card, I am giving away $50 to the winner of this contest….now will you play?

Here is a thought I had on leadership today….
Lets consider the word, “WITH”
Nehemiah 2:4-5, “The king asked, ‘Well, how can I help you?’
 WITH 
a prayer to the God of heaven, I replied, ‘If it please Your Majesty and if you are pleased with me, your servant, send me to Judah to rebuild the city where my ancestors are buried.'”See the word “WITH” up there?
How many times do we forget “with” in our leadership?
I lead a person to God, but not WITH a prayer to God first.
I lead a fundraiser for the first time, but not WITH a prayer to God first.

I lead a new initiative at work, but not WITH a prayer to God first.
I lead my family to a new church, new ‘hood, new school, but not WITH a prayer to God first.

A BIG key in his leadership was Nehemiah’s “with.”
A new leading should begin WITH prayer & WITH God.
If Jesus leads you, then how can you lead without Jesus?
When we pray BEFORE any leading,
we give Jesus the right order He deserves:
He leads us; us leads others.

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>Enter This Contest & U Could Win!

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I’m looking for the best caption for this picture. Submit one. All entries will go before an outsourced judging consultant, (DJ Palacios, Inc.) and the contestant, who’s entry he selects, will win a $10 gift card to Starbux or Dunkin Donuts. If you are entering out-of-state, and you win, your gift card will be mailed to you via snail-mail. Have fun and thanx for playing!!

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>Food for Followship, the last one

>For the most part, I’ve talked about following, as it pertains to people.

This time, I’ll spin it different: following, as it pertains to things.
With these things, what do you follow? The high road? The low road? The middle road? Or no road?
1. Food
2. Exercise
3. Books
4. Entertainment
5. Rest
6. Faith
7. Money
8. Internet
9. Tollbooths
OK, well I can’t very well ask you to answer and not answer myself. But trust me, its tougher to blog your answers to the public than just answer them in your head!! Here are my answers as they correlate to the above list.
1. High road
2. Middle road
3. Middle road
4. Middle road
5. High road
6. High road
7. Low road
8. High
9. Middle/Low (hey, if it’s a change-only booth and I don’t have any, what am I suppose to do!??!!)

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>Food-for-Followship, part 4

>Well let me be straight up, here…committing to FIVE blogs on followship is a tad challenging.
But right now what I’m feeling, is to share with you some of the peeps I follow. 

We all lead and have folks who follow us, but I hope this post will help you get to know who I follow 
AND help me keep a healthy perspective.
‘Cause leading can give you a big head, man. Perhaps listing who we follow can offer us a little head-shrinking, eh? 
And maybe you bloggers out there can list who you follow too? Or not. Anyway, here we go………………….
1. God -read more about my #1, here: biblegateway
2. Raul – he doesn’t blog, but he loves to read this one: swerve.lifechurch
3. Rob & Rach Funk – they don’t blog either, but my p.’s attend an awesome church,willowcreek
4. Troy & Steph Gramling, get to know them: troygramling & stephaniegramling
5. Allen & Sharon – lot of experience, lot of wisdom, lot of fun
6. DJ & Andy – I know they’re 4 & 2, respectively, but in a way only I can know, I follow them. If I don’t follow where God takes them, I’ll miss priceless opportunities.
7. John Ortberg – he’s mentored me even when I was a drunk-punk. I hope to meet him someday: mppcfamily
8. Nancy Beach -again, mentoring me from afar since I was in h-school. If you are creative & in ministry you should follow her too: nancybeach
9. Larry King – in a roundabout way, I follow him every night: larry.king.live
10. Long-Time Friends: Kim, Christia, Liana, Keri, Shannon, Jeni, Michele – they’ve stuck with me for a long time (no easy task) and I am grateful.

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>Food-For-Followship part 3

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As promised, here’s what I’d do if I was being led by more than one leader….

Pray.
Let me explain why in a parenting-analogy:


The Cast:
Raul -daddy-leader
Me – mommy-leader
DJ – our 4-yr old follower


The Case:
Tonight, while I was at the gym, DJ asked Raul if he could have some grapes. Raul said no.When I got home from the gym, DJ asked me if he could have some grapes. I said yes.


In this silly example, each leader had led right, according to gut,
but you guys, in our daily grind, this can happen to us.
Though DJ didn’t exactly pray for guidance,
when this happens to us, with childlike faith, we should.


Our leaders are here for us to follow,
but God has always been there to lead.
We can always consult with Him, up there,
if leadership ever gets confusing down here.

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>Food for Followship, part 2

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Food for Followship, part 2

Cont’ing w/ my food for followship thoughts, God got my wheels spinning about something.
Do you remember, in the NT, when Paul & Barnabas had a fight? (Acts 15,
biblegateway )
Two great apostles!
Two great leaders!
Do you think this messed w/ their followers when this all went down?
Like “torn between two lovers…” or what?
Sometimes, we follow one leader.
Sometimes, we follow more than one.
What do we do? Esp. if something weird or negative goes down?
I’ll tell you what I’d do….after you tell me what you’d do, K?

Let’s talk about it, and maybe, collectively, we can resolve this quandary!

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>Food-For-Followship, part 1, take 2

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Food-For-Followship, part 1, take 2

I’m the oldest of 4 kids, so alot of my instinct is about being bossy & leading. 
It’s been part of my “job” since I started pushing around my first bro, Jason, 31 years ago. 
And a lot of times this butts up against my non-instinct to follow. 
That being said, I’d like to compare two bosses:My current boss, troygramling atflamingoroadchurch and a former boss, we’ll call her “Loca” at XYZ Company.
These bosses were TOTALLY different. I am their common denominator.
They both led me, I followed both of them.
I have been working for Troy for 5 months, I worked for “Loca” for one month.
Troy hasn’t fired me yet. “Loca” fired me after 30 days.
What I didn’t do well under “Loca’s” leadership (even though it sucked) was follow well.
I didn’t trust her, I didn’t give her the chance to be trusted, I didn’t pray for her, I didn’t pray for our work-relationship. 
I didn’t give her the benefit of the doubt. I didn’t just let her get the “win.” 
I didn’t keep silent about her to my peers. 
And the list goes on.
I just wonder, at times, when it comes to the bad working scenario… is it really their bad leadership, or is it…our bad followship*
(thanks for the word, Fuller)
Have a great day, & let me know if you’re feelin’ it w/ this Food-For-Followship post!

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